When learning a language it is possible to try too hard. It’s a very good thing to be passionate and motivated but not such a good thing to be obsessional. This is difficult for me as that’s what I am by my very nature. I’ve had to learn not to be a perfectionist as language is about communication first and foremost. Not about having the best grammar, pronunciation or vocabulary. You need a lot less than you think but a basic standard is still necessary. Don’t get hung up on what you can’t do and concentrate on what you can do as that will give you confidence and inspire you to learn more and to practice with people without fear as this is a thing that I struggle with greatly.
As a friend once said to me, relax and it will just happen. I’d spent enough time learning and now I had to let my brain give the words to my mouth so that I could practice using them. I needed to form connections which can only really be done in actual conversations.
I tried to learn without people by recording myself so that I could get real time feedback and later sending it to people for their assistance but this is still removed from how you will use the language.
What Morpheus says to Neo in the Matrix “You have to let it all go, fear, doubt and disbelief.” Is what is required to speak freely but I had to overcome an innate fear of offending others as I’m some what controversial in my thought patterns and conservational style. Lucky for me Greeks are very straightforward people who tend not to beat about the bush with their words.
A lot of the common Greek phrases seem rude to English ears so we are reluctant to use them as we think that they will think is impolite but it’s really because we have been indoctrinated with political correctness and they have kept their common sense.
There are 2 main ways to learn a language. One is if your main focus is going to be on talking to people and you have no desire to read, write or do anything else in the language; then you will be able to pick up the language relatively quickly but you may not acquire that deeper understanding until much later if at all.
The second way is much more intensive because if you wish to be able to read and write it as well as to be able to speak it then you have to be committed for a much longer period of study. You have to dive down to discover the bones of the language because only then will you uncover how the language is built using which particular grammatical structures etc. Languages are like houses you see as some you have just for limited use like a summer house and others you intend to live in so you have to spend the appropriate resources on their construction. It will benefit you in later life or it will stifle your productivity depending on how you went about building your knowledge.
Of course the first foreign language is the most difficult as we have to establish what works for us and possibly cast off bad habits that we have gained from education or life. It is most certainly worth the effort though so stick with it and you will be rewarded. The most difficult time is usually just before your about to make a breakthrough so remember this if you want to quit as you don’t seem to be making any progress.